Clarify who is responsible for the added children and revise the work brief first.
Pause to define the request
“Could you watch one more child?” can mean a sibling joining briefly, a visiting cousin, or a second family’s child for a regular schedule. Ask which child, which dates and hours, where care happens and whether another adult remains present. The head count alone does not describe the assignment.
Identify the responsible parent
Find out which parent or guardian provides instructions, can be reached and will make decisions for each child. If another family is involved, ask how the adults coordinate and who is your employer for the added work. Do not assume one parent can speak for everyone or that an informal request creates a nanny share.
Rebuild the day
Put existing responsibilities beside the proposed additions: school pickups, ages, meals, rest periods, transport and handovers. Identify moments when simultaneous needs cannot be met as written. Ask the family to adjust the plan or provide another adult rather than relying on the nanny to absorb an undefined change.
Review the written terms
Ask how duties, schedule, pay, expenses and the end date of the added arrangement will be documented. Applicable pay and employment rules depend on the actual location and agreement. This guide supplies negotiation questions, not an automatic rate or legal classification.
Try a fictional afternoon
Fictional example: a family asks the nanny to include a visiting child after school twice a week. The nanny asks for the other child’s pickup authorization, contact and handover plan, then checks whether the existing child’s appointment conflicts. Only after the family resolves those points do they revise the weekly brief.
Questions to take to the agency
- Which additional children, ages and hours are proposed?
- Can the current care plan and resources support the change?
- Who confirms the revised duties and terms before the shift?