Decide what the image request is for, where it will go and whether you should share it.
Start with the actual request
A request for a headshot can mean several things: an agency profile, an introduction to a family, identity verification or an informal message. Ask which use is intended and at what stage. Do not infer a requirement from another agency’s process. If the job posting does not ask for a photo, focus first on the required application materials.
Check the reason and recipient
Ask who will see the image, whether it will be included in a family-facing profile, and whether an existing professional photograph is acceptable. If the request comes from an unfamiliar account, verify it using the agency contact route published on its own site. The EEOC’s hiring guidance says employers generally should not ask applicants for photographs and notes that a photo needed for identification may be obtained after an accepted offer. That guidance is a reason to ask questions, not a determination about a particular request.
Prepare only what has been agreed
If you choose to provide an image, use a recent, clear picture that you have permission to share. Crop out children, household interiors, badges and location clues. A family photograph or a picture from a former employer is not a substitute for your own professional image. Keep the original file and note the date and destination of what you sent.
Use a short response
Fictional example: A recruiter asks Maya to text a photo. Maya replies: “Could you tell me whether this is for your internal profile or for a family introduction, and which application channel you prefer?” The question lets the recruiter clarify the purpose before Maya sends anything. It does not assume the request is improper.
Make the next decision
If the purpose remains unclear, ask for an alternative or pause the image submission while you continue the rest of the application as allowed. If the request includes money or sensitive financial information, check the FTC’s nanny and caregiver job scam guidance and verify the recruiter independently. Keep the issue separate from your nanny portfolio, which is a collection of work evidence rather than an identification photo.
Sources
Decision card: Write down the stage, stated purpose, intended viewer, preferred submission route and any retention or removal question you need answered. If the image will become part of an introduction, ask whether you can review that profile before it is shared. If the recruiter says the photo is optional, decide based on your comfort and the role requirements; keep the rest of your application complete.